But the woman who showed up with cleavage also came to church seeking. Did she find, or was she told that her dress was inappropriate before she was gossipped about on the boards?
True story. A number of years ago, I was leading a praise band at a United Methodist church where we did a Wednesday evening praise service. The dress at this service was very casual, jeans, tee shirts, shorts, sandles, etc. The Pastor decided to have our praise band play at one of the Traditional Sunday services. One of my singers showed up in a beautiful dress that she filled very well. If we'd been playing in a night club her outfit would have been perfect. She wasn't a seeker, but grew up in that church, but was young (24) and didn't think about who her audience would be (mostly people over 65 years of age) at that Sunday morning Traditonal Hymn based service. Let us just call them the "frozen chosen" as they didn't like our music either as anything with a beat guitars, drums, etc was NOT worship music to them, but as bad as they didn't like our music, they were even less blessed with her choice of dress. I remember telling her, before the service, that she wasn't appropriately dressed for a church service and that the outfit looks great, but is more appropriate to a nightclub gig not a worship service ( I had a band years ago with a female vocalist that played clubs, etc, before I was saved). We aren't putting on a show, but are hopefully leading the congregation into a time of worship where they are to be focusing on Our Lord. They aren't supposed to really notice us up here leading the music. This isn't the "Christian Tonight Show". She understood, but unfortunately there wasn't enough time for her to go home and change. So as those of you, who've been to a similar type church, where the "frozen chosen" reside, I heard many complaints about the music (which I had tried to tell the pastor when he asked us to do the service, we'd get), and many complaints about this young women's attire. My guess is, they'd have been less put out if she'd been in jeans and tee shirt. So it may seem stupid to some of you, but a praise band, choir, etc, job in the service is to lead people to a worshipful time with the Lord, not change their attitudes about modern dress, etc. That would be for the Pastor to address in some sermons as lead by the Holy Spirit.
Just as when you preach a sermon, know your audience.
Now, I agree that a church shouldn't be jumping down people's throats about what they are wearing, especially visitors and seekes. Frankly, in most churches that's how you can tell a visitor, they aren't dressed like everyone else, be it jeans or a provocative dress.
I'm now a Lutheran and do not dress in a coat and tie, but wear a sports shirt and jeans. As it turns out, most of the congregation at this Lutheran church also dress that way, so it is a very comfortable place to be. Today was Easter and yes many of the women did dress up in beautiful dresses and a number of them even wore fancy hats, but no one, young or old chose to wear any type of dress that showed cleavage. Some folks also came in casual clothes and nothing was said as this is a very cool and comfortable church where people are there to worship Jesus and not give folks a hassle. Many visitors were there today (family traveling from out of town, etc) and none of them either dressed with cleavage showing.