It used to be that we all shared basic standards of civility: for instance, when someone died, even if you didn't agree with what they stood for or how they lived their life, the civilized thing to do was to at least respect their accomplishments and, if you couldn't say anything nice at all, then to say nothing at all while those who cared and respected that person were mourning.
Those standards appear to have fallen by the wayside, and I think our civilization (if you can still call it that) is the worse for it.
Yes, Ted Kennedy did an awful thing 40 years ago, and even if he escaped criminal punishment for it, he paid the price for the rest of his life. There's not one obituary of the man that doesn't have Chappaquiddick as an early and important factor in his life.
You may not like what he spent the rest of his life and political career doing. You may believe that his actions, or his political views, or the accidents of heredity over which he had no control, all made him somehow ineligible for any hope of redemption for what he did. You may believe that after what happened at Chappaquiddick, he should have vanished from the public eye, or been locked up for the rest of his life, or whatever it is that you believe. It's a free country. You're welcome to that opinion. But I hope you'll at least pause from your sarcasm and your attempts at humor for a moment and consider all those people lined up along the route of his funeral procession yesterday. They're Americans, too, and they certainly seemed to believe that what Ted Kennedy did for them in the last 40 years of his life outweighed that awful deed that happened before many of them were even born.
Then consider what the more civil members of your own political faction had to say about the man. If you can get beyond your preconceptions long enough, listen to the remembrances Orrin Hatch and John McCain delivered Friday night, and see if perhaps somewhere in there you can find a shred of respect for all of the other things beyond Chappaquiddick that also contributed to the man Ted Kennedy was. Or read any of the very civil, respectful, and dare I say even admiring statements about Kennedy's passing that came from friends and colleagues of all political stripes. Even Sarah Palin had the grace and respect to put out a nice comment expressing her sympathies for the family.
Oh, and spare me the whole, "but the libs are going to go to town on Dubya when he dies" attempts at equivalency. Go back and look at what happened after the deaths of Richard Nixon and Ronald Reagan. Yes, you can point to a handful of disrespectful columns and letters to the editor and such, because there's always somebody on either side who'll say something outrageous to get noticed. But I think you'll find the vast majority of those who disagreed with them still managed to rise to the occasion and respect their service to America - and that if they couldn't muster that, they at least kept their mouths shut and avoided acting like uncultured boors. I'm hard-pressed to remember any comments suggesting that a Ronald Reagan monument should be built in the form of a statue of Bonzo, or that Nixon should be honored with a plaque on a jimmied door at the Watergate.
I fear that we are losing the ability not only to respect, but even to attempt to understand, those with whom we disagree. That's not a healthy thing.