Since R.F. Burns suggested in another thread:
Tom is very straight forward and happy to answer questions. E-mail him and maybe let us know how your conversation goes.
and Tom gave permission for me to release the contents of our private email exchange, here it is, edited to protect the innocent (and the guilty).
Hello Tom:
Thank you very much for logging into the message board so quickly!
You won't find any name calling on the message board. Fortunately, 99% of its regular participants are reasonable people and have interesting things to say. I think you will actually enjoy reading the more intelligent posts and replying to them when appropriate.
Your comment below about the primary coverage area for radio stations is certainly understood here. I really do understand that listeners to WOR in Florida really don't count. As it happens, I am NOT a DXer, so that really isn't what I was talking about. What I was talking about is when I leave the city and go to an adjacent county to a small station's "primary coverage area" where I used to be able to listen to that station and that all of a sudden I can't do that anymore because of IBOC now being broadcast on a 50 KW AM station that occupies an adjacent channel. I don't know all of the engineering terminology for what is going on with the IBOC carriers but I do know that I can no longer hear the small station where I used to be able to with no interference.
Yes, I do understand that there is an FCC defined coverage area for AM stations and I also think you are right on that the unfortunate part of HD is that stations will find out what their coverage really is. That is for sure! It's not 20 years ago (like you said) and we aren't in Kansas anymore (I guess).

My son will not listen to "normal" radio either. His fascination is with the iPod.
With your permission, I would like to post my original email to you and your reply to me below on the message board (edited to take out the identities of the "innocent"), since **** (from ****, who's most recent moniker is **** and used to be ****) actually asked that I get back to the message board with some of your initial comments to me. I was so surprised to receive your reply so quickly that it caught me off guard, but I do very much appreciate your having taken time our of your busy schedule to reply.
Let me be the first to privately welcome you to the message board!
Cal Stymes
>From: "Tom Ray" <****>
>To: "Cal Stymes" <****>
>Subject: RE: AM IBOC
>Date: Thu, 7 Jun 2007 21:44:53 -0400
>
>Hi Cal -
>
>Good to hear from you. First, call me Tom. Mr. Ray was my Dad.
>
>I'd be happy to sign onto the board. I will say, however, that I don't mind
>disagreement with me (hey - I'm not always right - ask my wife!), but if
>people start name calling and the like, I will simply go away. There are
>certain things I just don't put up with - abuse is one of them. Heated
>discussions are always fun. While I will put forward my opinion, I also put
>forth the facts, and there are many who try to skew the truth and who report
>false "facts". Some people, of course, don't want to hear what I have to
>say, and that is their perogative.
>
>Anyway, I'll sign on possibly tonight when I'm finished checking email. And
>I've answered some of your comments below:
>
>-----Original Message-----
>From: "Cal Stymes" <****>
>Sent: Thursday, June 07, 2007 7:16 PM
>To: "Tom Ray" <****>
>Subject: AM IBOC
>
>Hello, Mr. Ray:
>
>Permit me to introduce myself. My name is Cal Stymes and for the past year
>or so, I have been participating in the HD Radio message board area of
>radio-info.com forum:
>
>
http://www.radio-info.com/smf/index.php/board,194.0.html
>
>While the discussion in this message board area is lively and can get heated
>at times, it is probably the most open forum in which to discuss the topic
>of IBOC, and for that I think all of the participants there are very
>appreciative.
>
>I originally became interested in participating in this forum because I had
>received a Boston Acoustics Receptor receiver a little over a year ago and I
>was rather disappointed with the performance of it in the AM broadcast band.
>
>I found that the receiver had lots of trouble holding a lock on the HD
>signals of your station (WOR), WABC, WCBS and WFAN. In midtown Manhattan,
>WCBS and WFAN were the worst and I could only very rarely decode their IBOC
>signal.
>
>[Tom Ray] The Boston Acoustics radio leaves a bit to be desired. I can
>offer pretty good insight into a good many of the radios available - I
>happen to have 9 of them, and am reviewing another new one right now. I
>gave the BA to our Asst. Program Director - I couldn't take it any more. It
>would lock up once per week.
>
>Needless to say, this immediately gave a rather bad impression of this
>technology to me, and I went on to this message board looking for answers
>and how other people were reacting to HD Radio. The discussions became so
>interesting and lively over the past year that I decided to continue
>participating.
>
>[Tom Ray] That's one of the issues I have with the manufacturers when I
>review a radio for them. For example, the radio I'm reviewing right now
>performs very well on HD and on analog - until you get to a marginal signal
>area (I live up near Newburgh, NY - right smack in the null of the WOR
>signal). This radio has "noise canceling", which turns into signal
>canceling up here. I have to goose the volume control almost 20dB to hear
>the station in my driveway. God help me if it kicks into HD (it did this in
>Monroe, NY where the signal is still low and almost blew me out of the
>car!). Frankly, I find the performance in low signal areas unacceptable,
>and told the manufacturer this - then listened to a lot of malarkey about
>their noise canceling technology. If this is what the general public is and
>will be putting up with, we're all in trouble.
>
>It is now a year later, and after hearing about all of the interference
>complaints being directed at the large AM stations which are using IBOC, I
>have become rather outspoken on the message board (as have others who
>actually have broadcast and other engineering backgrounds) about what
>several of us now consider to be a somewhat destructive set of rules and
>regulations that the FCC just recently approved in March. I feel that this
>is tantamount to not much more than being federally approved deliberate
>interference on the AM broadcast band, the kind of which would never
>have been approved as recently as, say, 20 years ago.
>
>[Tom Ray] I'll answer you more thoroughly over the weekend, but a lot of the
>interference complaints are hogwash. I can fill you in on several - one I
>was involved in. But....you need to understand that this isn't 20 years
>ago. You didn't have iPods, Internet radio, satellite radio and soon, wi-fi
>radios and wi-fi available throughout cities (yes, this is coming). That's
>a lot of competition - all digital, without the whines, whistles and buzzes.
>I base many of my observations on my 19 year old son and his friends - none
>of which will listen to AM radio, period. My son, thank you very much, has
>XM and will not listen to "normal" radio.
>
>Of course, the argument being made by the large stations is that the
>interference is being experienced only by small stations in areas which are
>outside of their primary areas of coverage. So that means, if I formerly
>listened to a small AM station just outside its primary area of coverage,
>and now a large AM station comes along on an adjacent channel with its IBOC
>carrier and wipes the small station out from me still being able to receive
>and hear it comfortably, then effectively iBiquity has broken my radio for
>me and the message from the enthusiastic supporters of HD Radio is, "Well
>that's too bad for you".
>
>[Tom Ray] Well, no, that's not the argument being made by large stations.
>You may experience hiss in the background outside of the primary signal
>coverage area. From a station's view point, we market to and sell spots in
>the primary coverage area. While there is nothing that explicitly exempts
>us from selling outside the primary area, it makes little sense for most
>stations, and comes down to economics for the radio station. Any audience
>outside the primary area will not count toward the ratings. Ratings are
>what help bring in revenue. While WOR has listeners in Florida at night, if
>they can't hear us, well, not nice to say it this way, but they don't count.
>That's not to say we don't like them or want them, but realistically, they
>bring nothing to the table. Additionally, there is an FCC defined coverage
>area for AM stations. The unfortunate part of HD is that stations will find
>out what their coverage really is.
>
>Recently, I lamented that while we have heated discussions on this message
>board, there is not one single broadcast engineer from a large AM station
>(from anywhere in the U.S.) that is using IBOC who is willing to come on to
>the message board and tell us all about how wonderful they think this
>technology is. One of the pro-IBOC participants on the message board, an
>individual named **** who works in **** at ****, always tells us that he
>is employed in the #1 broadcasting market in the country and that he knows
>some of the engineers who work at the large AM stations that are using IBOC.
>No doubt you know him. He finally challenged me to write an email to you
>and offered your email address. He said that you are "very straight forward
>and happy to answer questions".
>
>So, I am writing to you, not so much with specific questions, but with a
>request that you might consider coming on to the message board and talking
>about what you like about AM IBOC, what you don't like about AM IBOC (if
>your company will let you) and what you think about HD Radio and iBiquity in
>general. There do seem to be several people with broadcast and other
>engineering backgrounds who participate on this message board and agree
>that AM IBOC doesn't play nice. What I am asking is, where are the broadcast
>engineers who have actually worked with the technology and will point out
>the good things about it and be willing to support it publicly. All I ever
>hear from the enthusiastic supporters of AM IBOC is that it will "save" AM
>radio from becoming obsolete. But my perception is that the public doesn't
>really care too much about it or isn't paying too much attention to it.
>
>As one who loves listening to AM radio, particularly in the NYC market, I
>have a hard time believing that what I consider to be a destructive
>technology which introduces interference to adjacent channels on the AM
>broadcast band can save anything.
>
>[Tom Ray] I can tell you that I have *never* said that IBOC will "save" AM
>radio. I am on record - in print - stating that it is another tool and can
>help AM radio. The reason the public isn't paying too much attention is
>several fold, among the reasons is that the radios are just becoming
>available in "normal" stores, the price is finally coming down, and that
>there has been no push for it yet... because the radios have not been
>readily available. It's gonna be interesting.
>
>Thank you for taking the time to read this message. I will be looking
>forward to the favor of a reply, but if you are unable to do that, I will
>understand that as well.
>
>[Tom Ray] As I said, I'll sign in probably tomorrow night - I have a bunch
>of email to catch up on, and want to see if I can make a couple of Ham
>contacts tonight - I missed out on the guy from Finland on 20 Meters last
>night. And, as I said, I'll address more of your items over the weekend.
>
>TR
>
>Cal Stymes